Peter Lambrou

Always on the lookout for new ways that clients can release what is keeping them stuck and preventing them from playing at the top of their game, I interviewed one of the book’s authors, Peter Lambrou PhD.

According to Dr. Lambrou — a licensed clinical psychologist and specialist in anxiety, work stress, weight loss, and emotional self-management — after decades of clinical experience, the authors decided that a process for self-application was needed to help more people worldwide.

Lambrou states, “The book is suited for people who feel the fog of distress. They know something is missing or something can be improved, but it’s not significant enough to see a therapist. We teach them this tool so they can empower themselves.”

The 4 step Code to Joy process includes:

1. Identify.

What life limiting belief may you have? During this step you self interview and self assess. If you experienced chaos in your childhood apprehension about the future may be an issue. Trust might be an issue. For some people, it’s not about just one blocking belief. There may be layers with one belief stacked on top of another.

To help readers identify their blocking belief, authors George Pratt PhD and Lambrou have distilled 94 different beliefs (that they identified in their practice) down to 7 key beliefs (It’s not safe, I’m not loveable, I’m powerless, etc.)

2. Clear.

This visualizing step helps you to clear your body’s energy systems from interferences, so that you (and your energy systems) can accept new belief patterns. Think of your energy system like a cup that has toxins in it. These have to be cleared out before you can refill your cup with fresh water.

3. Repattern.

In this step you take that negative belief you identified in step one and turn it on it’s head to create a personal code of joy. The book encourages everyone to add a statement around self acceptance to the new belief. Lambrou explains, “Self acceptance is the foundation of self-esteem and for making changes in one’s life.” He likens it to being an astronaut in a space station. In the weightless part of the capsule all movements will keep you in the same place. Once you get grounded by a bulkhead of self-acceptance you can push off anywhere want to go. This is the part of the repatterning step that acknowledges: I’m safe and OK where I’m at.

4. Anchor.

This step is based on NLP concepts and is intended to produce a way to anchor a new pattern, a new thought process so it’s not lost under time and duress. Anchoring also enables you to reinstall your new belief, if necessary. This step employs imagery (choosing a personal symbol of balance and self talk, along with an energetic holding position.

After the initial four step process, it’s recommended that you do a condensed version several times a day for about a month — the time it takes new habits to establish themselves.

Lambrou states encouragingly, “There is never a time in life where it’s too late to make a change, to take off in a new direction. Even something that has persisted since childhood, can always be repatterned, so you can experience happiness for the rest of your life.”

I encourage you to read the book to access this simple and yet remarkable process: Code to Joy: The Four-Step Solution to Unlocking Your Natural State of Happiness

Melissa Wadsworth is an author, intuitive artist, inspirational speaker, Certified Dream Coach®. She specializes in taking clients identify their dreams and limiting beliefs for personal growth, life fulfillment and dream success. Instantly receive her 11-day video course “How to Create the Life of Your Dreams Through Clarity” at www.melissawadsworth.com

As spring fully blooms around me, I am reminded that what’s inside of us manifests out in the world. Just as the trees bring forth blooms each year from the nourishment of the past months, so we, too, bring into physical reality what we have nourished. Our personal growth, our power to believe in our dreams, shows up around us.

From our inner reality, outer reality eventually comes into view. From our thoughts and beliefs we create an emotional resonance that is the spark for creation. What are you sparking into your reality?

3 Things will help you to be a more consciously dream manifest:

1. Set clear seeds, those heart-felt intentions

Be clear. Declare your willingness to lay the ground for a particular outcome. Then stay flexible, like young trees, about how your intention unfolds. Last year I set the intention to be more soul-guided than ego mind guided. That created a path of both challenge and opportunity I couldn’t have foreseen. And yet, I have made the evolution and progress I envisioned from the beginning. That’s so satisfying. Here’s are a few intention prompts:

• I intend to…
• I intend to forgive…
• I intend to complete…
• I intend to be open…
• I intend to create ….
• I intend to hold space for …
• I intend to be a vehicle for …
• I intend to _____________ more.
• I intend to express …
• I intend to remember …
• I intend to be ….

2. Consciously tend your rich environment.

If you habitually go through your days, you can’t properly nourish your intentions or your dreams. Each day there are gifts of awareness that feed your mind, heart, body and soul. Each day there are sign posts to follow and synchronicity to forward you. This is not about trying to control a situation or trying to push something to happen; it’s about gaining wisdom and next best steps through conscious appreciation of what is being offered to you.

Try naming 3 ways you could care for the young shoots of manifestation that you have begun to grow. What would ensure the manifestation reaches its full potential?

3. Cross pollinate.

Cross pollination naturally creates something new. Fresh opportunities arise from joining with new people and by exploring how your different skills can work together for new interesting possibilities. This year I’m volunteering to help get an exciting event and movement started called Women in Innovation 2012 Summit (go “Like” it on FB and watch for the website launch). The energy of this group comes from many fascinating people with different backgrounds and various strengths coming together to set the stage for something new to take place.

We’re all tending a global garden these days. As we tend to our own growth we take responsibility for contributing the healthy bounty of our whole selves to our universal ecosystem. Most of all use your wonderful spirit to encourage others to likewise grow into their brilliance. Then we truly exist in plenitude and bounty.

Melissa Wadsworth is a Certified Dream Coach®, Intuitive Dream Board Artist, Inspirational Speaker and Author. She guides evolutionary midlife makeovers for women at a crossroads, helping them to transition from Blocked to Brilliance™ for a life of full of purpose and passion. To access her complementary 11-day video course, How to Live the Life of Your Dreams Through Clarity, go to www.melissawadsworth.com

 
Likewise this performance by Joshua Ledet is so incredibly beautiful and powerful. Riveting!

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Watch and see for yourself.

In what situations do you notice yourself and other people saying that so-and-so can’t make it big, or be successful or go all the way to their potential because they look a certain way?

Replacing Judgement with Love and Acceptance

I used to hear this around personal development speakers. That if you wanted to be a star in this arena you had to present yourself as fit and attractive. In essence, you needed to fit a mold. I found this a little disturbing considering we’re talking about people who are supposedly addressing personal growth issues. Thinking this way is not very advanced.

Yet, we’re all socialized into this errant thinking. I realized last year, as I began to put on a few pounds, that I had thought myself better than my siblings and other people who couldn’t “control” their weight. I prided myself on my will power. Mind you, I didn’t know that I carried around this belief, but all of sudden wearing the other shoes, so to speak, the limiting and judgmental belief revealed itself. Actually it was quite a gift to see this “heavy” belief so that I could release it.

Let’s all try to be more kind to others, and especially more kind to ourselves. It has to start with us not so harshly judging ourselves before we can truly hold others in the true regard they deserve.

Practice seeing others as the vehicles of light that they are and practice being your own best vehicle for love.

First, the person called to apologize for not supporting me adequately in the past after I had supported her efforts. I appreciated this, and yet it felt like she knew she had to preface her conversation with this acknowledgement before she could get to the real reason she called. Which was that she was calling to ask for me to support her again. Thirdly, it was all delivered in the language and tone of a tele-seminar sales call. You know the kind where they promise tons of content and keep telling you how much valuable content you’re getting, but in the end you’re left feeling very unsatisfied, like you just ingested air.

What the Heck Kind of Conversation Was That!
After, I hung up, I was left wondering where was the real “exchange” in that?

I did sense she was sincere in her apology and yet it was so odd that she waited until she wanted my support for something new to deliver this apology. I would have been happy to talk about this a bit more. Why it had happened, what new was going on in her life that inspired her to take care of such an integrity issue.

Delivered like this, there was a mismatch in messaging (apology plus salesy request) that was strange. There was no real connection from someone I know is capable of deep, meaningful connection. Yet, I must thank her because this call made me realize something very important: I’m not interested in these kinds of conversations anymore.

How to and How Not to Use Small Talk
Listen, I’m the gal who wrote Small Talk Savvy. I understand and appreciate all the things that surface conversations can do. Namely, create bridges to authentic exchanges of interesting topics and real-life experiences. There’s nothing wrong with small talk except when you try to use small talk to cover a more substantial topic. Small talk does not work well for apologies. Keeping it heart felt and simple does.

No matter who you converse talk with or small talk with remember you’re talking with a real person. If you’ve talked with the person before, a friendly “here’s an idea” I’m thinking about tone works well rather than a”scripted” tone. In my case the scripted tone totally threw me off since I had had enjoyable conversations with this person previously.

The Shift to Authentic Conversations
Authentic communications requires being vulnerable sometimes. Authentic communications doesn’t have a marketing script. This telephone call just happened to come at a time I’ve been thinking about how I really want to engage verbally with others. I’m interested in conversations that are:

1. Real. An hour before I got this call a friend who I hadn’t talked to for awhile  (both busy trying to make our businesses succeed), phoned me. She called to tell me she closed her business, her sister had died and she had surgery. This was authentic revelation without any agenda. She wasn’t calling to get sympathy, she was calling to truly get caught up and that just happen to be the trajectory her life had taken.

She didn’t try to pretend everything was “fine.” There was no covering up or pretending. She knew she could share this authentically without fear of judgement or me rushing to get off the phone because it felt like too much to hear. We had a true heart to heart about how we were feeling about our lives and what our hopes are. That’s connection.

2. Deep. I love a little small talk, but if I know you and we have stuff in common, let’s go deeper. Let’s share struggles and triumphs. Everything is shifting on the planet more dynamically than ever before. That means not knowing what side is up all the time, not having it all figured out. That means being excited about the possibilities this presents and wanting to collaborate with others who sense big things are astir and they want to be part of change. Talk to me about any of that and we’re bound to have a fantastic, engaging and fun conversation! I think my clients appreciate that they feel safe bringing up anything.

3. Supportive. We’re engaged in conversation for the fun of it and to be there for each other. We can share our true feelings. We try to help each other and uplift one another through our connections. We leave the person feeling better after we’ve left the room or hung up the phone.

4. Passionate. We share our passions without judgments of each other or the turns our life paths take. Let’s laugh about the wonder of life and about the craziness of it! I apologize in advance if I talk over you, that’s as fast and furious as the thoughts and ideas are coming! It’s not polite and I’m working on it.

5. Collaborative. I’m truly interested in collaborating, in unifying our energies to brain storm, to dream, to problem solve, to share life stories, to plan exciting adventures, to create new possibilities, to be more dynamic and effective than we could ever be alone! Come to conversation with an authentic sense of what we can contribute to each others’ efforts –that there is real energy value to share and harmonize for everyone’s benefit.

I believe that now is the time to increasingly feel connected to one another. To appreciate who we are individually and to discover what kind of force for good in the world we can be together. Talk to me about that. Then we’ll each fully feel the the wonder of human connection, contribution and creation. That’s a conversation I always want to have.

What are the conversations you’re longing to have?

Melissa Wadsworth is a Certified Dream Coach®, Intuitive Dream Board Artist, Inspirational Speaker and Author. She guides evolutionary midlife makeovers for women at a crossroads, helping them to transition from Blocked to Brilliance™ for a life of full of purpose and passion. To access her complementary 11-day video course, How to Live the Life of Your Dreams Through Clarity, go to www.melissawadsworth.com

Eva-Maria Mora is the author of Quantum Angel Healing: Energy Therapy and Communication with Angels. In her book she outlines how to work with angels to effectively raise one’s vibration so that healing and release of negative programs can occur.

Four subconscious programs that create health issues and manifestation blocks

Mora points to 4 major subconscious programs that result in health problems as well as self-sabotage and getting in one’s own way. The 4 programs are:

• Love hurts program
• Victim program
• Unable to forgive program
• Judge program

Just reading that list, I’m sure one or two resonate for you. Perhaps you heard a voice in your head that said, “Oh, love hurts, I’ve said that to myself before.” Maybe you felt a pang in your heart when you read, “Unable to forgive program.” Mora makes it even easier to understand which program you may be running by listing A to Z physical ailments and the associated programs.

Why 2012 is different

We chat about all the challenges that came up one after the other for us last year, and how the ego mind is having a tough go of it these days. She calls these daily life challenges “initiations.” She remarks that the high energies of 2012 are an invitation to do things differently.

“The bottom line is to get back to knowing who we really are: the energy of love,” she emphasizes. “The light is shining on us, the earth, because of how earth is in the planetary system during this Age of Aquarius (2000 years of light). It’s a chance to rearrange our DNA, to do things in different way. To get along in this new energy you have to look at where you’re out of alignment, your shadow side.

Mora says you can get into alignment by asking yourself, “Am I doing justice to myself.” Are you doing justice to yourself when you get up each day and go to a job that hardens your heart, when you make a choice that reinforces a bad habit, when you put yourself down one more time?

The heart way

Then come to place of relaxation instead of punishment and criticism. As she so beautifully puts it: “Come back to the heart way instead of the smart way.”

Mora describes an old Hopi prophesy about coming into 5^th world (during this time in history). Rock carvings show people who go a certain way are disconnected (head hovering from body) and they won’t end up well. The prophesy shows that by following and being connected with your heart you can be on path to the future.

I asked Mora how you can tell when a challenge is something you need to experience to move forward and when the challenge is something that is holding you back.

Very insightfully she said, “There are stages in our life that we all go through. But if happens over and over and over again you are running a program and there are ways to release it.” She presents some of these ways in her book.

According to Mora, these initiations are teaching tools to learn who you really are. “Who are you? You are a powerful being of light that can heal yourself and find a way to improve your life and co-create your life,” she states emphatically.

How to know when you’ve released your blocks

How do you tell if you’ve release the blocking programs? Mora says that you can gauge by looking around at what is happening in your life. She uses the example of the man who is afraid of dogs. He works with the angels to transform this fear into the energy of love and dogs don’t bark at him anymore. He’s not sending out “crazy energy” anymore.

Another example she cites is a school teacher who had problems with the children. When Mora looked at her emotional body it looked like a block of ice that has been in deep freeze for 30 years. With angel work she got chiseled out like a work by Michelangelo.

In her book Mora provides meditations and exercises that help make the shift from energy that is not working in your life, to loving energy that heals your life — that gets you back to appreciating that you are perfect just as you are.

Learning who the angels are

She also gives descriptions of the primary archangels and the issues they typically work with. I was excited to see that archangel Jeremiel “helps with clairvoyance, prophetic visions and dream interpretations.” Perhaps he is just the angel I need to help me go even deeper with dream board interpretations!

After reading her book, you sense that you can call on angels, any angel, for matters both big and small. That’s nice to know.

What I love about Mora is that she walks her talk during these times of frequent change and challenge. In 2000, Mora, who has an MBA, was guided to quit her international career as a top management consultant in Europe and to let go of everything and everyone in her life.

“I followed my heart. In 2000 I wanted to learn about shamanic healing and I like to go to the source. So I came to North Sedona for a vision quest. I met a man who was an apprentice for the shaman. We fell in love and everything changed. I had to let go of everything I had in Europe — a whole life! I had to start as an immigrant in this country following my heart. I walk my talk. Now we teach together. So people who work with us come into this energy of love,” she stated.

Mora understands that all these life lessons were spiritual initiations, which prepared her for her true calling as a compassionate, clairvoyant medical intuitive and spiritual teacher.

Listening for your song of change to begin

For anyone who is feeling stirrings of change, but isn’t sure what move to make she has this advice: “Be in alignment. There is a divine plan and it is working. We don’t always get it, but we have to trust it. Make the shifts you need to make. You will know for sure (when it’s time to make a move). A strong sign will come that can’t be overlooked. You will feel in your heart that the energy is moving you. It’s like dancing with music. The song is playing. Move according to the song. If you don’t hear it, or feel it, don’t move. Wait until the music starts to move.”

Her final piece of wisdom is this: “Relax and have some humor in your life, because that raises the energy as well.”

To purchase Eva Maria’s book go to: http://quantumangelblog.com/quantum-angel-healing-book/. She also offers 3-day QAH certification workshops and CEUs for alternative health practitioners.

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Melissa Wadsworth is a Certified Dream Coach®, Intuitive Dream Board Artist, Inspirational Speaker and Author. She guides evolutionary midlife makeovers for women at a crossroads, helping them to transition from Blocked to Brilliance™ for a life of full of purpose and passion.

Tosetti’s road to living the savvy life all started more organically in her twenties when she was trying to figure her own life out. On weekends and weeknights she felt restless. “I kept telling them (her husband and friend Kevin Gibbons, who is now her co-author) that I’m supposed to be doing something. It went on for years. The minute that I got the idea for the online magazine, that feeling disappeared. I knew I was doing what I was supposed to be doing” she states.

According to Tosetti, who has appeared on the Fine Living Network and has been quoted in national publications like U.S. News & Report, she feels she was destined to teach financial information for people who are struggling to make ends meet, as well as six figure income people who are spending every penny. Her passion is “to show Americans how to step off the pendulum that swings from overspending to extreme frugality,” so that they can enjoy financial balance and security.

When I ask Tosetti why she is the perfect person to communicate this particular message, she responds that it comes both from her heart and her own life experience. “I believe I’m the right person to work with people to create a foundation and help them make friends with money again. It’s like dieting, we’ve lost touch. People experience lots of guilt around money or have no guilt around it at all because they spend so freely,” she says. Her work – coaching, online magazine, and best-selling book Living the Savvy Life: The Savvy Woman’s Guide to Smart Spending Rich Living — is about creating some guidelines so anyone can spend with an open heart.

Tosetti reports that she first had the savvy life idea in 1997 in her late twenties, but didn’t have the confidence or resources to do anything with it. So she continued working in high tech public relations. Then when lays off in the high tech industry finally got to her, she resolved that it was the perfect time to act. So she used severance to start her company.

In 2004 The Savvy Life magazine started as a quarterly publication geared toward women who didn’t have a lot of income, and focused on helping consumers finding things cheaply. Tosetti says that at the time she did not have clear vision, a clear goal. She just jumped in with both feet. “I’m grateful that I did, because if I had taken too much time looking at it, I probably would have never started.”

Because the information and approach in her book is highly strategic, Tosetti admits that there was a disconnect between the advice she offers and who she was as business person eight years ago. “To live the savvy life you have to start somewhere and be willing to let things happen and unfold. It involves lots of self-discovery,” she states. “As I’ve evolved, the business has evolved.”

In 2006 she began The Savvy Life online magazine that now gets updated five days a week and receives 150,000 unique visitors a month. Over the years the focus of the publication has shifted to “smart spending,” regardless of how much money you make.

In discussing some of the socialization and lack of education that results in a culture of disease with money, Tosetti makes several key points:

• We’re trained by media and advertisers to spend on things. “Magazines want you to aspire to consume and have lost touch with the average consumer,” says Melissa. “I started The Savvy Life magazine because I don’t want to wish, I want to attain.”
• We mindlessly consume verses being conscious and aware of our buying habits. We go into Target to buy one thing and end up with a full cart of stuff. We think there’s one item out there that will bring our life together. A client of Tosetti’s remarked that she thought there must be one kitchen item that would magically make her June Cleavor. This kind of “believing” leaves us with clutter rather than the stuff we really want to have.
• We aren’t educated about day-to-day spending. Then we feel out of control and ashamed of our financial reality.
• We aren’t taught to spend on education. Coaching is education. We’re stagnant and we’re dying (mentally, emotionally, spiritually). People need to continue to invest in themselves rather than just things.
• People aren’t doing what they really want to do and aren’t fully appreciating what they already have. When you have to save for something you’re going to appreciate it so much more. And, when you appreciate what you have as you plan for something better, you increase your life satisfaction.

As Tosetti points out, we live in a society in which we aspire to be like lifestyle icons (actors and celebrities, etc.) who don’t have to pay for the expensive clothes they wear, who are paid to attend events and given lots of stuff free. Keeping up with the Jonses (and then some) is bankrupting us – through actions like licensing expensive cars, buying high-end clothes, and trying to live the same lifestyle as a highly paid boss.

As a financial lifestyle coach, Tosetti’s strengths are empathy, positivity, and the ability to clearly see the path from financial issues to goal fulfillment. “Money is so emotional. My attitude is let’s just move forward without beating yourself up.” Tosetti works with people trying to get control of their spending habits and people who want to make sure that they are spending well and that their money is working for them.

Regardless of what category you fall into, there are Three Simple Ways to Start Living the Savvy Life:

1. Sit down and ask yourself what is most important to you. What have you not spent money on that you would like to. What areas can you cut back in that aren’t that important to you.  For instance, as she shares in her book, Tosetti and her husband consciously buy used cars instead of new cars so they can travel.

2. Control your spending. This is the non-sexy, essential part of living the savvy life. Track your spending. Knowing where your money is going. Make every dollar be accountable.

3. Pay attention to your attitude. You can put yourself in a downward spiral if you focus on lack — what you don’t have. Appreciate what you have while striving for what you want. Listen to yourself about what you are complaining about (me complaining about the lack of water pressure in our house) and choose to appreciate it instead (I have hot running water whenever I need it!). Having a positive attitude includes having a sense of humor about your situation.

Approach your situation from where you are. As Tosetti explains, “Some people have their eyes open for the first time. They ‘get it’ and are excited to implement.” Those people just run with the advice outlined on the website or in her book. Others get it, but need more time to let it unfold and work for them. These people may need extra help from a coach to get on track.

Melissa Tosetti is offering The Living the Savvy Life online program for $19.95 a month. It offers day-by-day ideas you can implement. To find out more go to http://livingthesavvylife.com/

Melissa Wadsworth is a Certified Dream Coach helping women transition successfully through midlife changes in careers, relationships, self image, and spiritual growth. Melissa is passionate about women bringing their full brilliant selves to light. Be sure to invest in yourself and get clear about what your true dreams are. Sign up for my no cost 11-day video course: How to live the life of your dreams through clarity at www.melissawadsworth.com or contact me to discuss one-to-one coaching.

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