I’m currently at the eWomenNetwork conference in Dallas. So I have about 3000 networking opportunities. That mean tons of small talk, which can be pretty intimidating if you aren’t secure in your conversation skills.

Here’s 3 things to remember when you’re networking and employing small talk to connect to others.

1. It’s all about the energy! That’s right. You’re exchanging energy more than mere words. So be optimistic and upbeat. Your thoughts, words and actions all add to the fantastic energy you can gift to others. That’s doubly important when you’re at an networking or business conference. Just think of the happy impression you can make on someone who is tired of talking to people because it feels like work. Then they talk to you and they feel glad to be conversing and connecting again.
2. Watch your body language. Small talk and any good communication is 55% body language. That means that a friendly face and an inviting body stance goes a long way. Keep your body language positive — try not to cross your arms when you’re standing, lean forward a bit when you’re small talking. Keep attentive eye contact and nod to indicate you’re listening.
3. Use observational cues to start small talking. “You look like you’re looking for someone. Can I help?” “I can’t believe how busy this conference is! Is this your first time here?” “Did you like the last speaker?” These kinds of opening questions help to get the conversational ball rolling. Use the obvious stimuli around you: what’s happening or just happened, the attendance (busy or not), comment on the food, music, speakers, etc. When you’re at a networking or other business event, you’re there for a common goal. So share that commonality and find out how others are feeling or experiencing the event. That should give you plenty to talk about.